I came across this article recently and thought it was a good one to share! (9 Steps to More Effective Parenting (for Parents) – Nemours KidsHealth)
Parenting can be tough, but also so rewarding! Sometimes I feel like parenting is just a constant battle of correction and nagging… and when I feel like this, I’m sure my son feels like it too! These nine tips can help move to a more positive model of parenting.
- Boost your child’s self-esteem. Praising positive behaviour and helping your child feel a sense of pride and achievement is a great way to build relationship and connection.
- Catch your kids being good. It is so easy to catch bad behaviour- that usually stands out like a sore thumb! But catching good behaviour is a game changer! Catching good behaviour helps grow the behaviours we want to see.
- Set limits and be consistent with discipline. Agree on rules and then be consistent in enforcing them. Discipline doesn’t have to be big. In fact, there’s a lot to be said for keeping discipline simple and repeatable as we all learn through repetition- and some of us take longer than others!
- Make time for your kids. Find windows of quality time to spend with your kids. Again, keeping it simple is often the key to success. Make popcorn together, play a game of cards, go for a walk- your kids will treasure these simple moments of connection.
- Be a good role model. Be the type of person you want your children to become. Be slow to anger, quick to say sorry, generous in forgiveness. Think about the qualities you admire and show your kids these qualities.
- Make communication a priority. Express your feelings clearly, chat, listen, watch, describe, provide choices, negotiate… role model how to communicate and your kids will start communicating similarly.
- Be flexible and willing to adjust your parenting style. Parenting isn’t a ‘one size fits all’ model. Our children are all different, and as our children grow their needs change. Parenting is sometimes about trial and error. If you make mistakes or if what you’re doing isn’t working, adjust and change course.
- Show that your love is unconditional. Nurture and encourage- even when disciplining. Make sure your child knows that, although you may need what they’re doing to change, your love is there no matter what.
- Know your own needs and limitations as a parent. We often feel guilty when we focus on our own needs- but your kids need you to care for you. Take time to do things that make you happy so that you enjoy the journey with your kids.
If you’re struggling with parenting, why don’t you come and have a chat with your director or centre chaplain? It takes a village to raise a child and Young Discoverers are grateful to be a part of your village. Go to www.kidshealth.org for other great articles to support your parenting journey.